going the distance. out-of-the-box ideas. and keeping the faith.
February 21, 2011 § 19 Comments
Last night was one of those sad drives from the airport — a recurring event in my life. O.T. flew back to California and I’m in withdrawal. For two and a half years, I’ve coped with a long distance relationship by repressing the matter from my consciousness. But there are times like today when all worries are rampant.
It dawned on me: I have not seen California in five and a half months! That is a record. O.T. has been making the sacrifices to come to my neck of the woods. He has spent a total of a month’s worth of time in Toronto over the past four months alone. It adds up to a lot of time away from home. Come to think of it, last year in the nine months between January and September, I spent a combined three and a half months in California. In all of 2010, between the two of us, we spent nearly five months combined of being away from our own respective homes. Five months out of twelve! In the past two and a half years, we’ve probably spent nearly a combined ten months on vacation. THAT is how we go the distance.
But things are changing. Back in the fall, I put my wedding stationery business on hiatus indefinitely, due to a combination of an expired business license, a feeble economy, burn-out, and a dying dream. As of last month, I terminated the website for good. It’s been a big decision and a long time coming.
I look back and my eyes well up. Four and a half years ago, shy of my 27th birthday, I gave my two weeks’ notice at my steady job at a civil engineering firm. I was armored with the hope that I would beat the odds (what is it — 99% of small businesses fail?). Well, it wasn’t going to happen to me. And not to out-of-the-box ideas (it stings to mention the name now, which I admit I’ve deliberately avoided since starting this blog). Within eighteen months, I suffered burn-out and slowly and surely lost my will, but continued with numbness for three more long years. In hindsight, I understand how I met my failure. I was good when things were good, but I was an utter disaster when the littlest things were awry. I simply didn’t have the maturity to trudge through hardship at the time.
The beauty is I went through some of my most creative moments while steering the course of my own ship. I know I had great things to offer, but I also know I still had a lot of growing up to do. One day, I’ll be back and I’ll do it right.
I am blessed with good graces. And I rest assured the higher powers-that-be are watching over me and making sure of my survival. Just days after I closed down the website for out-of-the-box ideas, three weeks ago I got two important calls from two unrelated companies (a school and a civil engineering firm) with offers of employment. The real miracle is that I didn’t seek them out. (Have faith that when the time is right, things do fall on our laps). Even more miraculous is that both companies are willing to work around my current part-time teaching schedule (which I’ve had for almost three school years). So for now, until further notice, I juggle three jobs, a blog, and small steps towards a sideline in freelance writing. I am blessed and ever grateful.
Now with my life drastically changing, how do we narrow the distance between me and O.T.? As I have done all my life, I am keeping the faith.